In two months time they would send me away forever as if I were a stranger. I slowly realised I was being set up. April 1974: Im seven. Thus, Sissay began his life as "Norman Mark Greenwood . He was British and Ethiopian. Ive collected a lot of names along the way and almost everyone I asked said they would come if they possibly could, he says. $12.79 12 Used from $6.23 32 New from $8.47. Its not a shameful thing any more. Hoyle went into care as a young teenager and at 18 he set up a charity for care leavers called A National Voice: We campaigned to stop children in care leaving with their belongings in bin bags. Now he works for North Yorkshire county council identifying and implementing ways that we can make life better for children in care. Norman Mills, my new social worker, waited at the gate. LEMN SISSAY. Donna Ludford, aged six months, with her dad. Its never really been something that had a lasting effect on me., CEO of Adoptee Futures and critical adoption studies researcher, I was fostered till the age of one and then placed with my adoptive family, says Annalisa Toccara. She is also a trustee of the charity Pure Insight, which supports young people to have a better care-leaving experience than she did herself. It felt affectionate then, but later I realised something wasnt right. I lost everybody. We sweated until one of us, invariably Christopher, would burst into tears. Later, while piecing together his origins, he discovered that his mother had pleaded for his return and been denied by social services. She showed him a letter that she had written in 1968, 4 months after he had been born, in which she pleaded, to no avail, that he be given back to her to live with his own people. ISBN: 9781786892362. The church. I loved school. It was a difficult situation, he says. This is the story of being stolen by the state and his 17 years in local authority care. A school report calling the boy "a ray of sunshine" is probed for racist overtones, and happily exonerated. Lemn Sissay. And he learned that his mother had been pleading for his safe . It was amazing to be seen, says Olumide Popoola about some of the social workers who helped her through care in Germany. Mum and Dad said I was like Macavity. The level of invisibility of the issues facing young people leaving care has not fundamentally altered in the past 20 years., Theres still a very clear judgment passed when people hear you say, I was in care, says Akiya Henry. Ive forgiven my foster mother. Johanan Walker, aged 13, with her one-year-old daughter, during their time in care in Hackney. The experience was marked by contradictions relating to her race and religion: I remember I had chickenpox and I couldnt go to the mosque, but we were allowed to go and see the Queen as she was visiting the town. Encouragement from teachers spurred her on to become an artist (she was nominated for the Turner prize in 2007). I loved my family. My grandad and foster parents and I used to go down to the bay to get salmon, trout and mussels. They wanted their children to be educated and go to university. It was a beautiful thing for me when I found my birth mother, but it was complicated too. The Fostering Network is the UKs leading fostering charity; it champions fostering and seeks to create vital change. It was amazing to find him and realise where I get my activism from., Social work leader, campaigner and charity trustee. My name, my brother . There are many strings to the bow of Lemn Sissay OBE. Marcus Clarke with his new carer on the day he entered NCH Sheringham. Now my mindset is slightly different. Accidentally shares video of daughter over it can Listen to Capital Spoilers September 20 I was left in care and it felt like their intention was that Id work out it was my fault. We raced each other home from school every day and every day I got there first. She was pregnant with her son Lemn, who would go on in later life to become a playwright, broadcaster, writer and speaker. Or 45 years. I felt incredibly cared for and looked after., When Paolo Hewitt was researching his care memoir, The Looked After Kid, in his early 40s, he went back to Burbank childrens home in Woking, where he lived from 10 to 18, and realised that it was actually a great experience, especially compared with the dismal years in foster care that preceded it. In 1984, at 17, he was sent to Wood End Assessment Centre, a remand home in Wigan. My brother Christopher was eight. It was a question to which I already had the answer. In a sea of brilliantly coloured fabrics never has clothing seemed more important to the story we tell of ourselves TV producer and editor Janet Lee looks particularly confident in jazzy reds, hot oranges and cheeky pinks. Lemn Sissay was seventeen when he wrote his first poetry book, which he hand-sold to the miners and mill workers of Wigan. Just before Christmas in 1983 the 16-year-old "Norman Greenwood" discovered his real name and Ethiopian roots in his birth certificate and some letters from a social worker. I still think love is the most important thing. Now she is a lived experience consultant and the co-founder of calling4gr8ness.org, supporting care-experienced young adults in the creative industries. The last entry is his letter requesting to see them, at 18. She looked at me as if I had wounded her. Yemarshet Sissay came to England from her homeland, in 1966, planning to become a teacher so she could bring her new found skills back with her to Ethiopia to teach in schools there. My grandad had a cottage in Lochinver we would visit in the summer holidays and at Easter. Why - and the search for the answer to why - became the word that defined Lemn . Mum and Dad must have told everyone in my family to stay away from me. Why would the social worker, Jean Jones, say that my mum and dad are seen by Norman as his parents? He reflected how he had since forgiven his foster parents, saying they did the best they could and he had also received apologies from Wigan Council. My friends. These experiences have shaped who I am today, an independent woman, passionate about my career and working with local authorities in Greater Manchester to ensure every young person has a voice, choice and control over decisions made about them., Psychodynamic psychotherapist and director of Integrated Minds and Artists on the Couch. SOS #Dare2Care Gwynedd Council is calling for more care workers in Gwynedd. He was taken into long-term foster care in Wigan and named Norman Greenwood. It didnt feel like a traumatic experience at the time, but as I got older it dawned on me that an older, white, middle-class woman with seven black children in her house, beating them with a cane, was a bit strange., Author and artistic director/CEO, Bernie Grant Arts Centre, London, I think of my life in two parts: before I traced my birth family and after, says former Guardian journalist Hannah-Azieb Pool, who detailed the journey in her memoir My Fathers Daughter (republished this year). Soon afterwards she died of cancer and De Abreu ended up, after several foster placements, living in the notorious Jersey childrens home Haut de la Garenne. This is very powerful stuff, Lemn, not least because it echos so much of my own life, though in ways very different from yours. They carry on, and people deal with them in various ways. Goddard is the chair of the Care Leavers Association, which focuses on care leavers of all ages it might help people access their care files, or deal with issues around social isolation. She is now employed by the NHS in Greater Manchester, leading a programme to create trauma responsive communities and organisations and to improve health outcomes and opportunities across the region. Being adopted is definitely something that puts a mark on you, says fashion and portrait photographer Philip Sinden. In care from 11 to 17, Ben Ashcroft moved 51 times between foster parents, residential care, secure units, secure training centre, and finally a young offenders unit. He has authored several collections of poetry, as well as plays for both stage and public radio, and was official poet of. In. I was different. He holds an English nationality and belongs to Black ethnicity. My mother was a manic depressive, so I was in and out of care. The clamour of questions is almost deafening at Londons Foundling Museum one sunny July morning, when 59 people who, for many different reasons, spent all or part of their childhoods in care, gather for a historic photocall. Mrs Greenwood does not think of the boy as a foster child. A decade ago, Clare Gorham was very much pro transracial adoption. The University of Manchester Chancellor, poet and playwright, Lemn Sissay, has received his OBE for services to Literature and Charity from HRH Price Charles.Since taking up the Chancellorship in 2015, Lemn Sissay MBE has contributed to the University significantly on a local, national and international scale. See more information From 13, he lived at a Barnardos care home in Ripon, North Yorkshire. Christopher Goldsmith lived for a month, he writes, then quietly died, slipped away/ Almost never existed Christopher died so that I might have life/ and have it more abundantly.. It is not sunny, but Lemn Sissay is sheltering behind dark shades, hunched over as he inhales cigarettes to feed his near-40-year habit. He was badly bullied at school and his education suffered terribly, but he soldiered on and enrolled at Bird College aged 22 to study dance and musical theatre. Its radically changed who I am.. During that time he also became a drug addict and notched up 33 criminal convictions, he says. I dont believe an adopted baby gets any less love from their parents than a child naturally born to them. He has been made an Honorary Doctor by the universities of Manchester, Kent, Essex, Huddersfield and Brunel, and in 2019 . Come what may, I may be knocked down, but I wont be down for long., Artist and founder member of the darkroom e5process, Tina Rowe first encountered racism when, aged six, she moved with her white adoptive family from a small Oxfordshire village to Malvern in Worcestershire. They were in the trunk back at home. When Allan Jenkins embarked on his gardening memoir Plot 29, he found himself writing about the helplessness of seed just three paragraphs in and was prompted to revisit his unsettled past, growing up in foster care in south Devon with his older brother Christopher. Ive loved mussels ever since. I just felt I had to hide it, says Sophie Willan, creator and star of Almas Not Normal, of her experience in care she spent much of her childhood in foster care in Bolton. Something pinched her features. Lemn Sissay MBE (born 21 May 1967) is an English author and broadcaster. He put me gently in the car. This was the beginning of empty Christmas time and hollow birthdays. Lemn Sissay, writer and Chancellor of the University of Manchester, held the Great Hall of Bolton School Girls' Division mesmerised during an emotional rollercoaster of an evening. "Margaret Thatcher was my mother," he says, beginning his story. After a succession of institutions, he left the care system, alone, and requested his files via customer services. 4 October 1979: The Greenwoods are seen by Norman as his parents, and they and their natural children meet his needs in every way. Social workers report. The betrayal was the worst thing. Buy a copy for 11.99 at guardianbookshop.com, Lemn Sissay will be at Southbank Centre on 18 October as part of the London Literature Festival, Original reporting and incisive analysis, direct from the Guardian every morning. A social worker placed Lemn with white Christian foster parents, David and Catherine Greenwood, who lived in Ashton-in-Makerfield. It made me aware that families all look different and thats absolutely fine., Carl Parsons was adopted at five weeks. Lemn Sissay as a child, with his foster family He tells me what happened when he met his mother a decade ago. CERI - Centre for Educational Research and Innovation, Ceremony of Carols Brings Light on a Dark December Evening, Local Primaries Compete in Maths Challenge, Cross Country Teams Crowned Town Champions, Girls Win Club Stage of Utilita Girls' Cup, 50th Tillotson Lecture Focuses on Biotechnology Revolution, Harriet is Swim Englands Breakthrough Athlete of the Year, Girls Lay Wreath During Armistice Assembly, Lacrosse Team Wins Northern Schools Tournament, One-Day Film School Develops a Range of Skills, Prize-giving Celebrates Outstanding Achievements. The view of care leavers is typically: unable to achieve a higher education, expected to fail in life, says Michelle Brown, who went into care at 11 and was hugely let down by her local authorities she was left on the streets aged 15 after one of her foster carers relocated. And this is what I found. $21.87 10 New from $16.75. Christopher was their first-born, but I was their first. He learned that his real name was not Norman. I had no pictures, no photographs. The documents armed Sissay with the necessary proof that "the government had stolen my childhood.". If we spent long enough with each other, wed probably all start crying. I was mostly well looked after, he says, and learned to be happy in my own company., Ive become somebody to whom family and community is incredibly important, says opera singer Jack Holton, who was born in Kent to a single mother with health issues and fostered at an early age. This is a great opportunity to celebrate our achievements, says Keith Saha of the Foundling Museum project. I know from reading the very brief information I have on my birth parents that my natural mother wanted me to have a better life than she could give me, he says. The answer was often because we are sinners. Interspersing readings from his new collectionGold from the Stonewith moving and raw recollections of his childhood, Lemn transfixed the audience. He followed his dad into the antiques trade. Lemn Sissay on ITV News (Credit: ITV) He gained significant international recognition in 2012 when he was appointed the official poet at the 2012 London Olympics. Today, we are as close as she can allow herself to be. I felt important. None of it. I had no idea what he meant. These moments stuck in my memory. It was the sense of an underlining unkindness that stayed with me. Its an incredibly common experience. He was the eldest of three adopted siblings, all from different families. Read the scriptures and give us your most honest and truthful answer tomorrow.. I showed my love for him by punching him. Now Im starting to realise that it did really have an impact on me, she says. But success is not about being the lord mayor, she told a group of care leavers recently. He has been made an Honorary Doctor by the universities of Manchester, Kent, Huddersfield and Brunel. Lemn Sissay is a poet, author and broadcaster who was the official poet of the London Olympics in 2012. Now Popoola is a novelist and an associate lecturer at Central Saint Martins in London. We usually get the narrative told about us so its nice to tell it ourselves, she says. His zodiac sign is Gemini. What kept us stable is that we knew we had two mums and dads.. I dont feel like its for me to make a story out of their sacrifices and goodwill., Director of access and participation, Rada, and co-director of We Are Bridge, Its so important to celebrate the successes, says Axa Hynes of the photoshoot at the Foundling Museum, but because there were so many hurdles it can also feel uncomfortable, a distraction from the deep, systemic societal change that has to happen. Hynes went into care aged 10, fostered by a family friend who had already been giving her family emotional and practical support. The heartache and anger of his youth alternate in his poetry with lighter, whimsical aphorisms and celebrations of place . Poet Lemn Sissay, with the help of Londons Foundling Museum, has gathered 59 athletes, artists, CEOs and others who, like him, spent part of their childhoods in care. It was Lemn Sissay. He describes a happy childhood, a mischievous nature, and warmth between siblings. They refused. Which is interesting, because I always saw myself as white. The abuse was confusing, he says, but Im quite stubborn. This photograph alone proves that with the right support and opportunities, those stereotypes are false.. Why would she make that comment now? The Greenwoods were strict Baptists and their foster child's high spirits appeared to wear them down. Poet Lemn Sissay says he felt obliged to accept his OBE because the award honours his younger self who overcame a "dehumanising" time in care. He was an introvert. None of us have ever looked into our birth parents, he says. I was born in the era of forcible adoption my mother was coerced into giving me up, says Louise Wallwein. Lemn was born in 1967; two months later, he was taken into care. Mr and Mrs Greenwood realise there may be many problems ahead with Norman. The skies are grey. Adopted as a baby, Jeanette Winterson grew up in a strict Pentecostalist family in Lancashire. One thing many share is dark memories of the shame and stigma they suffered. But nothing was coming from there. Lemn told how in 1967 his mother, aged 21 and unaware that she was pregnant, left Ethiopia to study in England. All I knew was that my birth mother, the woman who had my face and my blood, was from Africa and Africa was where poor people were. Interviews by Killian Fox, I once was Christopher Goldsmith, reads a poem, neatly typed out on one side of a piece of A4 paper. In the Baptist church, our church, we were taught to question why. Lemn Sissay's poem "Some Things I Like" celebrates what we might consider discardable like cold tea, ash trays, and even people. Because its not just my story, its the story of the people that have been kind enough to reconnect with me and the people that were selfless enough to bring me up. Poet Lemn Sissay, with the help of London's Foundling Museum, has gathered 59 athletes, artists, CEOs and others who, like him, spent part of their childhoods in care. I have no one to dispute or agree on the memory of me, good or bad. Lemn means 'why' in Amharic, the official language of Ethiopia, where celebrated poet Lemn Sissay's mother was from. This is Lemn's story, a story of neglect and determination . Lemn Sissay: 'My younger self did not deserve what institutions did to him' In a Letter to My Younger Self, the writer-broadcaster speaks candidly with The Big Issue about a childhood in care Adrian Lobb 6 Sep 2019 The memory of my younger self is something I struggle with. It was only recently that one of her brothers acknowledged what shed gone through and apologised for failing to confront it. It was followed bySome Things I Like, which he said he had recounted to a girlfriend after she had asked him to tell her something about himself. I had no one. His Landmark poems are visible in London, Manchester, Huddersfield and Addis Ababa. You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey. I believed her. She lived with a foster family from 12 to 14 and then spent a couple of years in a childrens home. Lemn Sissay reads from his new collection, Gold From the Stone, at Musicport festival in Whitby, 21-23 October, The poet talks about how his foster parents put him into care at the age of 12 and left him there, and finding his birth mother, Original reporting and incisive analysis, direct from the Guardian every morning, Lemn Sissay They treated me as if I was a Trojan horse sent into the family to destroy it., Lemn Sissay: My foster parents were good people who did bad things. Cato was born on the Caribbean island of Grenada and adopted as a baby by white parents in Brighton, along with his brother. Mcintosh managed to make it to university and now runs a Caribbean restaurant, Sugarcane London, in Wandsworth, but he remains scarred by his experiences. He is in two minds about searching for his birth parents. Spectacularly ordinary, is how poet Paul Cookson describes his very happy childhood in Lancashire alongside three other siblings, all of them adopted. His is an extraordinary story of family, and identity, lost and . I just have to keep mentally strong and reverse those doubts., Participation and projects lead at Pure Insight and business owner, Natalie Hirst spent eight years living in foster care in Greater Manchester and had a mixed experience, but her resilience helped her to develop the strength and skills to overcome many challenges. The memoir was warmly received, though Jenkins, who edits Observer Food Monthly, has mixed feelings about becoming a figurehead for care-experienced people. Poet, playwright, novelist, memoirist, radio broadcaster, documentary maker, public speaker, Chancellor of the University of Manchester. Interspersing readings from his new collection Gold from the Stone with moving and raw recollections of his childhood, Lemn transfixed the audience. The installation, Superman Is a Foundling, is another of Sissays initiatives, drawing attention to the ubiquity of the orphan in popular culture, and it momentarily shocks the poet and performer Luke Wright to find his own history reflected in a literary trope. Many of us who stood at the Foundling Museum have had to battle our way through systemic failures and discrimination. Sissay has spoken out about his care experience and its many traumas throughout his career as a poet and broadcaster. Lemn was the first person I saw on stage talking about being care-experienced and it blew my mind, says comedian, actor and writer Sophie Willan, best known as the creator and star of Bafta-winning BBC Two series Almas Not Normal. I remember the smell of wet heather, bracken and fern. And it gave me comfort to see your views on forgiveness and forgetting, for whilst I can see the psychological argument in favour of forgiveness, I stand with the words of a Holocaust survivor, 'There is no such thing as closure; it is a word invented by people who . Macavity was such a contrast to my blond, blue-eyed brother Christopher. I appreciate it.. Lemn Sissay said it was "a wonderful thing to be recognised as somebody who has got my kind of past" Poet Lemn Sissay has dedicated his OBE to his younger self who he said overcame a. They told me they were my parents forever. Before joining digital arts platfrom WhyNow as creative director last year, Janet Lee worked for the BBC, where she was the editor of programmes including Imagine and The Culture Show and a producer on Desert Island Discs. There are times, friends say, when he disappears altogether, depression paralysing him for months; times when he folds himself into himself. It was Lemn Sissay. The journey took about 45 minutes, or 45 seconds. Here are a few organisations for support and information: Become has been supporting and campaigning for children in care and young care leavers since 1985. But the responsibility is too great for a child and so he finds himself manipulated and blamed for what he exposes by the simple virtue of innocence. Theyre part of a poem-a-day project by their author Paul Cookson, who was born in the north of England and adopted shortly afterwards by a family in Essex. If I told someone I was in care, their handbag would move to the other side, jokes Luis De Abreu, who made his escape through acting and is now principal of the dance and music theatre conservatoire he joined after dropping out of school at 15. The care-experienced movement is shaping some of the thinking that people in care are talented and have so much potential. Social services placed the baby Lemn into long-term foster care, advising the foster family to treat this as adoption. I found my birth father very quickly, because he was an actor, Louis Mahoney, who was a big activist for Black, Asian and ethnic minority rights in the actors union Equity, she says. Music producer/writer; founder of clothing labels Duffer of St George and Sharpeye; author; one of the two creators of the rare groove scene; photographer; activist. Healing can hurt too. 3 January 1980: My mum wouldnt hug me as I left, so I hugged her. August 4, 2020. When Lennox Cato and his older brother were adopted by a white family in Brighton, they stayed in touch with their birth parents, who had come over from Grenada. Sometimes, if youve had my childhood, you try not to be defined by it, he says. Now, as he approaches his 55th birthday, he's added another: children's writer. If they were asking me whether I loved them or not, and if they were the ones who taught me about love, then maybe I didnt love them, otherwise they wouldnt ask. Here is an extract from the book. The way I see it, this should be something for people who are going through the system. LEMN SISSAY MBE is a BAFTA nominated International prize winning writer. Secrets are the stonesThat sink the boatTake them out, look at themThrow them out and float. My parents were amazing, but their colour-blind approach wasnt representative of societys view of me., There are at least two kinds of narratives about being in care, says Sylvan Baker. She is now a psychodynamic psychotherapist and the director of two companies. He has authored collections of poetry and plays. He said he now tries to put all his energy into projects that help children in care. "I spend all day in bed today," he once wrote plaintively on his blog. Then it was time for a love poem, which he believes is read at a wedding at least every two weeks and is available for free online:Invisible Kisses. Fortunately were all busy people, so we have to rush off. And suddenly theyre all gone, a fleeting crowd of one-offs, whose generosity with their time and their stories has created an indelible image. Ive had experiences with homelessness, she says, and its something that disproportionately affects people who are leaving foster care. I was shifted like I had never existed. It started at The Black Women's Cooperative - The Abasindi Coop - in Moss Side (1984 first paid gig) to todays event at Belfast Book Festival. They were happy, he says. Born in Wigan to an Ethiopian mother, Lemn Sissay was placed in foster care as a baby, and sent aged 12 to the first of a series of childrens homes. Postscript: After Woodfields, Lemn Sissay was sent to two more childrens homes. It's a bolt from the blue. I was a questioner. I loved the sibling rivalry. Alex Wheatle grew up in care in the notorious Shirley Oaks childrens home in Croydon a very lonely existence, he says. I studied the question for a day and a night, I prayed to God, and I read the Bible to see if a passage would answer the question. After a 31-year campaign he received them in 2015. When he was four, Kriss Akabusis parents returned to Nigeria, leaving him alone in the UK with his younger brother. We need to prioritise the voices of people with lived experience of care, she says. Audio CD. Lemn Sissay, My Name Is Why. Lemn means 'why' in Amharic, the official language of Ethiopia, where celebrated poet Lemn Sissay's mother was from. At the age of seventeen, after a childhood in a foster family followed by six years in care homes, Norman Greenwood was given his birth certificate. It maybe shapes certain aspects of your character and your attitude to life, says Tom Riordan of the experience of being in care. My brother Christopher is a year younger than me and I really loved him when I was a kid. He loved his parents, he says, but at the time there were no black kids around. Why would I think anything else? Both have experienced it, from very different perspectives, and met in person for the first time on this week's episode of Yahoo podcast White Wine Question Time. As much as you read this book and are in shock (or not) at how this young black child was dragged through a problematic system and feel angry at the injustices he has faced, you can't . Once in the care system, he became known as Chalky White and was moved to a new home each year, ending up at Woodend Assessment Centre, near Westhoughton. I took off my trousers and gave them to my brother. Thats the number of times he was relocated between 11, when he and his brother were abandoned by their mother, and 17, when he decided he had to pull himself together. Lemn Sissay was born in the village of Billinge, near Wigan, in 1967 to an Ethiopian mother. But its a bit of a B-movie of an existence. It's Mrs Catherine Greenwood, my foster mother of the first eleven years. Backhand and forehand smash, defend and attack, spin, cut, lob and slice. Sheen has made a documentary about her experience, a powerful study of cultural displacement and linguistic disenfranchisement called Abandoned Adopted Here. He advocates for children in the local authority's care and is involved in organisations concerning their welfare. Though it was clear she loved and cared for us, my foster mum used to beat us with a cane. 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